Sone of it depends on age. You want the little ones fed despite themselves.

The problem is when they’re not your kids, or aren’t used to having boundaries set. Then it becomes a huge drama. While we tried to elicit preferences, we only made one dinner and they could eat it or not eat it.

When my kids became teens, I just handed my kids the website for a meal kit service and told them to pick what they wanted to make us next week